you're already that person

you know who you want to become. the disciplined one. the present father. the builder who ships. the person who wakes up early and does the work before the world wakes up. so why wait? joe dispenza asks a simple question that stopped me cold: what if you stopped trying to become that person and just were that person right now? not tomorrow. not when conditions are perfect. not when youve earned it. now.

heres what he discovered through decades of research. by the time youre 35, roughly 95% of who you are is just subconscious programming. automatic thoughts. automatic emotions. automatic behaviors running on autopilot. your body has memorized being you so completely that change feels impossible. but neuroplasticity says otherwise. the brain can rewire itself through thought alone. identity isnt fixed. its chosen. every moment youre either reinforcing the old self or rehearsing the new one.

last year, we had a third child. traveled constantly. helped build three different companies. kept old friendships alive and made new ones. woke up at 5 am. hit the gym. meditated. wrote in my habit tracker. shipped things that scared me. none of it happened because i was waiting to become the person who does those things. it happened because i decided i already was.

dispenza puts it beautifully. he says your personality creates your personal reality. change your personality.... change your reality. but most people try to change reality first and wonder why their personality stays the same. they have it backwards. the real insight is this: you dont need to win the race or get the promotion or earn the result before you experience the emotions of that person. you can feel it first. you can be it first. and then your biology follows.

this isnt wishful thinking. dispenza has partnered with harvard, stanford, and ucsd to measure what happens when people practice this. brain coherence changes. gene expression changes. biology follows belief when the belief is embodied, not just thought. the gap between who you are and who you want to be isnt time. its not resources. its not circumstance. its permission. most people are waiting for someone or something to tell them theyre ready. theyre waiting for evidence that they deserve to be that person. but the evidence comes after the decision, not before.

youre the hero of your story. not because youve earned it. because you chose it. choose it today. what version of yourself are you still waiting for permission to become?